#SelfMastery II

Everyday NLP Tips 2/10
“Have a break, have a …”
Often time when we’re feeling down, angry or anything negative (which of course naturally happens to the best of us) it gets Really Hard to get off that sadness and anger. 

We let horrible thoughts plague our minds, think up of more worst case scenarios, listen to sappy sad songs and the list goes on. 

Here’s a quick trick to stop yourself from plummeting down that rabbit hole of infinite sadness. Nope, ice-cream doesn’t help.

In NLP, there is a technique called ‘break state’. It is a rapid change technique that helps you focus your mind on to something else. 

Suppose you are about to cry your heart out over being reprimanded by your boss earlier in the day. Instead of allowing yourself to get into the negativity zone, you simply get up and jump! Or get up and make coffee, sing a song, laugh out loud, dance – anything positive that is totally different from your current state of sadness – break state

It’s this sudden jerk or burst of energy that you do that will jolt yourself into feeling something positive. 



You will quickly realise that you have helped yourself from sabotaging your moods into spiraling downwards. I guarantee you will feel better. 

Easy, just break state.

And what happens when you allow yourself to wallow in self-pity or seethe in anger? You’re re-affirming all the negative traits to your subconscious. We definitely don’t want that to happen! 

Take control of your emotions, take control of your life. Have a break(state)! Wohoo!

#SelfMastery               

Everyday NLP Tips 1/10

When we let our emotions control us,
We get defensive and ..
angry easily..

upset

   outraged

        depressed

And the list goes on…
We allow whatever negativity there is attached to the emotion to be ‘true’ and our minds will confirm it. It becomes a belief. 

When someone, anyone says something to us that makes us wince…
Makes us grit our teeth…

Makes us launch into a screaming battle in our heads…
And then we respond in a defensive manner, with raised voices or weak comebacks…

We are allowing emotions to rule us. That’s where everything goes ‘kaboom’! ? because it will not just stop there. 

We will remember what was said and the way it made us feel. Emotional baggage. 

How do we control these raging emotions?

Easy but it takes practice. To detach our emotions from taking over us simply say, to the offending person: 

‘Thank you for sharing.’ 

No other ‘buts’ or ‘ifs’ necessary. No rebuttal, no explanations needed. 
This should be on repeat mode. 

By saying this we are training ourselves to keep our emotions in check and keep us in balance. 

Try it, the next time your friend, a relative, your co-worker or your mom(!) ‘annoys’ you with a silly comment… 

Just say …

Thank you for sharing.
(and smile) 🙂 

Purposefully,

Nur Sobah